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Dr. Raena, My Thoughts

Down With The Swirl, Part I: Why Black Women Should Try Interracial Dating

Prince Naveen and Princess Tiana from Disney's The Princess and the Frog

Prince Naveen and Princess Tiana from Disney’s The Princess and the Frog

Is it just me, or am I seeing more and more interracial couples?

For the longest, Black American women have been criticized for not having an open mind when it comes to dating (toward marriage). We have been accused of being selective and only having an eye for Black American men.

This is simply not true… Well, not quite.

While there are some Black American women who only want Black American men, there are several others who don’t have a problem with interracial dating. I can’t even begin to tell you about how many Black women I’ve encountered and befriended who love (and lust after) men of other cultures. These women want White, Hispanic, Asian, Middle Eastern, European–the list goes on and on. This is not to say that they don’t find Black American men attractive, but they are just completely open to any man from any ethnic background when it comes to finding a true, life-long love.

If you are a Black woman who is interested in interracial dating, but are hesitant or may be restrained by insecurities, check out a few of the reasons why you should at least try:

1.) Variety.

When you narrow your pool of potential partners to just one race of people, you limit yourself. If you keep an open mind, you’ll have an entire ocean to fish through.  Having this mindset will give you relatively more opportunities to fall in love.

2.) Learn something new!

It’s interesting to get a feel of a different culture; it brings more understanding, for one, and while you’re finding similarities between each other, you can appreciate the vast differences between you two as well.

3.) “We can show you better than we can tell you.”

Look. We’re tired of non-Black men not approaching us because they think we only want Black men. We’re tired of having to make the first move to show a non-Black guy that we are interested.

In my opinion, if more interracial couples were present, with one member being a Black woman, it would diminish the stereotype that all Black women are only interested in dating inside of our race. Also, it may encourage other Black women who have never even considered it to give it a whirl. It could possibly break barriers and assure Black women that interracial dating is okay.

4.) Do it for the babies!

No, seriously.

Many people have this weird perception that mixed children grow up to be “confused”.

No. They’re only confused if you don’t expose them to both sides and imply that they should “pick” one or the other. If anything, they have the best of both worlds, so to speak; they get to grow up in a household where they can experience two different cultures, possibly learn two (or multiple) languages and (if raised under ideal conditions) they’ll have an appreciation for diversity. That’s more than you can say about your generation, let alone yourself.

5.) Because you can.

Black men are way ahead of us. (Joke.)

No, but for real. Nothing is stopping you. Black women are beautiful and I believe we can attract anyone we want. (I know I can.) A Hispanic man will love your curves. An Asian man will love your eyes. A white man will love your smile. So go for it!

If you need more convincing, be sure to read Part II!

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2 thoughts on “Down With The Swirl, Part I: Why Black Women Should Try Interracial Dating

  1. YES! Thank you!!! I could not have put it better myself!

    Posted by ginagoestokorea | July 28, 2013, 7:46 am

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